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Nov. 7th, 2008 09:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Tonight at dinner there were some high points and low points.
She gave us a great description of how she and her friend A pretended they were birds. A. was a blue jay and E. was a robin, and they flew around and ate things. The climber was their house. One of the teachers apparently pretended to put worms on their heads. For a child who will never tell me *anything*, this was a great glimpse - hey look! she has friends! hey look! she has an imagination! (She talks about A. all the time, but sometimes I wonder - she's so shy, and so I don't know how one-sided the friendship might be...... So it's nice to have some verification of stuff they do together.)
Then the cataclysm. We had quesadillas for dinner, and she asked for more tortilla chips. I said, "I'm sorry, they're all gone." She burst into tears and said - very clearly and loudly - "I'm very upset! I. Am. Not. Happy. With. You." Coming as I do from a family that is mostly incapable of expressing any strong emotions, I thought that was *fantastic*. Yeah, I don't want her yelling at me about tortilla chips, but the fact that she was able to come up with those words and say them, in the midst of all that anger she was feeling, was really powerful to me, and I was very proud of her. Look at my girl being all expressive!!!
She gave us a great description of how she and her friend A pretended they were birds. A. was a blue jay and E. was a robin, and they flew around and ate things. The climber was their house. One of the teachers apparently pretended to put worms on their heads. For a child who will never tell me *anything*, this was a great glimpse - hey look! she has friends! hey look! she has an imagination! (She talks about A. all the time, but sometimes I wonder - she's so shy, and so I don't know how one-sided the friendship might be...... So it's nice to have some verification of stuff they do together.)
Then the cataclysm. We had quesadillas for dinner, and she asked for more tortilla chips. I said, "I'm sorry, they're all gone." She burst into tears and said - very clearly and loudly - "I'm very upset! I. Am. Not. Happy. With. You." Coming as I do from a family that is mostly incapable of expressing any strong emotions, I thought that was *fantastic*. Yeah, I don't want her yelling at me about tortilla chips, but the fact that she was able to come up with those words and say them, in the midst of all that anger she was feeling, was really powerful to me, and I was very proud of her. Look at my girl being all expressive!!!
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Date: 2008-11-08 08:35 pm (UTC)